Truth and falsity of the 30 on https://butfirstjoy.com/not-to-do-after-breakup/.
These are responses not just to the quotes of the bold, but also the explanations.
Contact your ex. For any reason
WRONG! there IS one reason to contact your ex – to apologize. A last message titled “Last and final message” and MAYBE one P.S. after it. As I said in my last post. Another things, just remain friends with your ex, just like you were friends before dating.
It is NEVER wrong to apologize, as long as you are not lying.
And express your heartbreak to your ex, confess your mistakes, apologize, and leave it at that.
Don’t keep any lines of communication open
Partly true. Do delete their number, but don’t block them UNLESS they say mean things.
Rebound
I’m not sure about this. I can just say that you should NEVER treat your ex as no good. But love them the way that God loves all people.
Degrade yourself
True
Lash out
True.
Post about it on social media
Partly true. But you can express your sadness in a mature way.
Stalk them on social media
I’ll have to go with true.
Seek out another ex
I also disagree with that. “They are your ex for a reason” – unfortunately that is not always the case.
Ask anyone about your ex
I neither agree nor disagree about this.
Don’t remain friends with his family (sorry not sorry)
I disagree STRONGLY with this one! You can still be friends with your ex, just not boyfriend and girlfriend. It can be the way it was before your first date.
Neglect your physical health
True
Dwell on the past
True. And I’ll add that you should listen to doom metal, death/doom, aggrotech, EBM and futurepop. Especially listen to Interface (Eric Eldredge, Nilaihah records (if I spelled it correctly)) and VNV Nation, and also “True Life” by Lights of Euphoria – I love the original mix and the VNV Nation remix. Even listen to “Love breeds Suicide” by Suicide Commando. Also “End of Love” by Schalllfaktor – I love the Wynardtage remix and the Suicide Commmando remix. I am curious as to why there aren’t more industrial, EBM, and futurepop breakup songs. I wonder why Combichrist wouldn’t produce a breakup song, considering Andy LaPlegua (born Ole Anders Olsen)’s divorce with Sophia Thomalla.
Bottle up your emotions.
Definitely true.
Date his friends
You know what, they made some good points.
Eat your emotion
I’d say that’s true.
Turn to drugs or alcohol
I’ll just have to agree.
Get revenge
What about “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.”
Distance yourself from friends and family
Definitely
Look at their photos, texts, or love notes
The bold is true. But I would never burn them – incase your ex comes back, you don’t want to regret destroying them, because they would be gone forever. Just put them in a file cabinet
Let them take up space in your mind
I’ll have to go with true.
Don’t forget to learn something
Definitely true.
Talk about them
Well you can express your heartbreak about your breakup with your ex, as long as you don’t say mean things about her. but I wonder if you should ask “Why is she so insensitive to my broken heart and wounded soul?”
Don’t stop loving yourself
I’ll have to agree with that one.
Try to remain friends
Why not? Can’t you and your ex just be the way you were before you began dating, as if you never gone out on a date?
Pretend you’re okay with seeing him
It’s fine to truthfully reveal that you’re okay seeing him, but it’s not okay to lie that you‘re okay seeing them. I do agree with the last part.
Pretend you’re okay
Agreed.
Give up on love
I’ll have to agree on that one.