Men, women, and divorce, a response to Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201412/why-breakups-are-actually-tougher-men

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201502/who-is-more-likely-leave-bad-relationship

Since for whatever reason (maybe to protect against trolls and spam) they don’t allow comments, I will just write a response in my own post.

It seems counterintuitive that men never truly recover from a breakup and women rebound so fast.

The stereotype is “We all know the stereotype: Men, bored by the constraints of monogamy and domesticity, heartlessly dump their girlfriends or leave their wives. While newly single men enjoy the freedoms of bachelordom, their exes sob into a pint of ice cream.” Why does that stereotype even exist?

Is it just sociological/cultural that men take breakups harder, or is it biological?

How does testosterone affect breakups? I can’t find an answer no matter how hard I search on Google.

And why don’t the articles give the evolutionary reason? Shouldn’t evolution lead broke men to rebound into a new relationship? Wouldn’t they be more likely to pass their genes?

Women fall out of love faster? That’s counterintuitive too. That’s something more masculine about women. It seems so feminine to love more. Hate is masculine, love is feminine.

Why is isn’t it true that “women take longer to fall in love, but once they have fallen in love, they don’t fall out of love as easily”?

Asymmetrical emotional support seems counterintuitive too.

I would love this post to go viral so those that read Psychology Today will see this post, and even authors like Elizabeth McClintock will see this post. But it’s been several years and still none of my posts have gone even close to viral.

Desirability of women and men by age and race/ethnicity

Search https://www.bing.com/search?q=asian+women+white+men+black+women+desirability

A lot of results say that Asian women and white men are most desirable and black women are least desirable.

White men may be desirable because of their rugged, stocky build and sharp facial features. Asian women may be more desirable because of slender build and soft, pediform/infantile facial features. Black women may be less desirable because of… maybe dark skin or weightier, lower-pitched voice. For a given gender, black Africans produce more testosterone than either white Europeans or East Asians.

But the studies didn’t mention or take into account Native Americans a.k.a. American Indians. Native American men, if anything, are more desirable than white men. Polynesian women, if anything, are less desirable than black African women.

https://www.bing.com/search?q=desirability%20women%20men%2050%2018

By no means does that mean that a 50 year old man should marry an 18 year old woman. She’ll be more likely to divorce and/or cheat on him, especially when she hits menopause. Also, miscarriage and birth defects are more likely.